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    To avoid hijacking the wildlife sightings topic I have started a new one to continue the discussion about hearing. It would seem that tigre’s husband suffers from the same SHS affliction that Mr F. suffers from (selective hearing syndrome) which led me on to the following.

    Mr F. is actually hard of hearing, he has a hearing aid which sits very comfortably in it’s little case in the drawer while we have some very strange conversations, I will say “I’ll bring the water in” he will say “I’ve got them out” “Got what out?” “The knives”!!! So I will repeat, loudly, what I orginally said and he will say that I don’t need to shout!

    It is sometimes comical but most times it drives me mad because I cannot understand why he just doesn’t wear the b****y hearing aid! If I was deaf enough to warrant one I would definitely wear it as I wouldn’t want to miss out on anything!!

     

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    Say Again?

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    I think Mr F is just one of thousands who don’t wear their aids.My Father- in -Law had very expensive aids which he didn’t use.They were provided by the NHS and a complete waste of resources.My dear Husband has a hearing problem,but only with a certain frequency.It was caused by working on planes and helicopters before ear defenders were considered necessary.It drives me mad.He says it’s my diction.My reply is not suitable for a forum.😂😂

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    The Voice was ecstatic when Dad started wearing his hearing aids, as were the neighbours. Tv down to normal volumes, and she says they stopped him saying..’What?’. But I think he took the batteries out sometimes….

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    I’ve been totally deaf in my right ear from birth. My left ear has got worse due to industrial deafness over the ensuing years and  I was borderline needing a hearing aid about 10 years ago. I was recommended to have one but do not use it. Both here in the Breton countryside and in Selby it is so quiet I can hear speech quite well providing folk don’t “talk to the wall”. TV and radio have the bass down and treble up, works a treat. In noisy conditions eg bars all they do is accentuate the background noise. A friend has his turned up loud (for himself) and consequently speaks too quietly for folk to hear him! His wife is forever telling him to turn them down!

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    I solved the problem of the blaring telly by buying him earphones, he has them at the volume he needs I have the telly at my volume – sorted! Except when he makes a comment to which I reply then I hear “Sorry?” and I have to signal for the earphones to come off!

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    I lost my left side hearing completely in about 5 seconds in 1989.  The subsequent loss of balance for about 18 months was terrible coupled with very severe tinnitus 24/7 , which I have had now for 29 years, is something which you never get used to. I just wish I could have it fixed with a deaf aid, truly, but probably it’s the tinnitus which REALLY gets on your nerves. And no one looking at you can understand what your going through day in day out.

    On top of that, I can’t triangulate on where any sound is originating, and being in groups of people immediately leaves me with a migraine.

    My remaining hearing comes and goes in levels of acuity but is gradually decreasing with age.

    Menieres desease is a right beaatch.

    So, please understand that deafness is a condition which is not something noticeable to people, unlike so many other conditions. My nearest and dearest sometimes becomes vexed with me, but I have to remind her and explain my condition now and again, just so she (re)understands.

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    I have non stop tinnitus but after a month or so my brain just discounted the sound unless it is totally quiet. Because you only have one ear working, as Gleaner said, you cannot place where a sound is coming from. Anne has for years told me just where she is in relation to me, say in a Supermarket. “Ray I’m here” means bugger all! ” Ray I’m behind you to your left” works! Got the contractors at work I supervised to do the same.

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    In all seriousness some of Mr F’s hearing problems are due to the stroke he had, he can’t stand being in an environment of tumultuous noise, so on the very rare occasions that we eat out he has to sit at the side of the restaurant, he cannot sit in the middle as the hubbub of noise is too much for him. Although he is very hard of hearing certain noises are too loud for him, for example, if I clatter plates the noise makes him wince. similarly to that which has been mentioned, he doesn’t always judge the origins of a noise, he will look for the tractor in one field ( always interested in farming and it’s machinery) and I will point to it in another.

    Tinnitus must be a horrible thing to deal with, I cannot imagine what it must be like to hear continuous ringing, whooshing or whatever form it takes, it must be unbearable.

    If  I was given an ultimatum of having to choose which sense to lose, sight or hearing, I honestly don’t know which would be the most awful, I cannot bear to think of either not hearing birdsong, music, children’s laughter and all the other beautiful sounds, or being unable to see all that is wonderful.

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    One good thing did come out of my deafness, I am permanently excused from jury duty. I was called up 20 odd years ago and sent them my audiogram and a statement about if people weren’t facing me I sometimes missed what was being said. Known as “talking to the wall” ie with your back to the deaf person.

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    My husband has these special hearing aids, they come out on high days and holidays! Other wise they sit in their little box on his side table! The tv is up on high and every so often I have to turn it down, when I can get my hands on the remote! Like you Fruits , I have my time with the tv when he goes to bed, so can watch it without it bleating away!  I sympathise greatly with anyone that  has tinnitus , it must be soul destroying.  :heart:   My husband didn’t enjoy being in a room with loads of people chatting etc, he felt cut off from everyone.

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    The earphones are a brilliant solution for the TV volume problem Blue, Mr F. even walks around with them on so that he can still hear what’s going on if he needs to go out of the room for something!!

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    Tinnitus is one of those things you have to live with. It is difficult to describe it to people who have never suffered from it. Mine is a high pitched screeching sound similar to the noise one had on an old radio when you were trying to tune in to a station. It is continuous from the time I wake till I fall asleep. I have the TV on all the time as the background noise helps overide the tinnitus. One of the most troubling things, I won’t say depressing, is realising that one will never be able to sit in the garden of an evening and be able to enjoy the peace and quiet. As the surroundings become quiet the significance of the tinnitus increases – better to have the TV on. Some one famous once said ‘old age doesn’t come alone’. :bye:

     

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    Has nobody got subtitles?

    i don’t watch anything without them.

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    We have all probably got a button on the remote that gives us the option of subtitles @jenny72 but personally I can’t stand them, I find them very distracting. In our house, it’s better for my man to wear his earphones to hear everything as clearly as he wants (he loves them!) and me to have the volume of the TV to my level of hearing, we’re both happy with that arrangement  :yes:

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    I don’t like subtitles, spend all my time reading them and never see the film.

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    I just can’t watch anything without them Im afraid.I just miss so much of what’s being said that I miss the drift of it.

     

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    A friend could only watch Rab C Nesbit with subtitles on because he couldn’t understand what they were saying!

    In the days when I was a house husband I was watching the German version of “Das Boot” with subtitles on. Unfortunately I was ironing at the time and burnt a shirt from looking at the screen not the ironing!

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    The only time we have subtitles is when Mr F. has accidentally hit the button and calls to ask why they’re there, “Because you turned them on” says I – he hasn’t touched a thing he says! Bless him he and any form of technology, even in it’s simplest form, do not go together, so I turn them off for him and he marvels at how clever I am and at how complicated the remote is! But he can turn a ruin into a beautiful house so I’m not complaining!

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    It was mentioned on TV a few months ago that a well known person had tinnitus that resembled footsteps walking on a tiled floor. Also Bill Oddie hears the English national anthem on a loop. :wacko:

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    My husband used to go to a lot of pop concerts, most were too loud for me, he took me to see Madness, I couldn’t hear properly for  three days!

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    Whilst a chemist at Ferrybridge “C” power station a young plumbing contractor asked me if  I could do a decibel measurement on his cars audio system. Apparently folk built these very expensive systems that had no distortion however loud they were played. The wiring was immaculately laid out, everything was highly polished etc. They even entered into contests with them.

    So we got into his car and I put in ear plugs then ear defenders. I had to insist that he did the same which he begrudgingly did. He switched it on and wound the volume up to maximum. I told him immediately to turn it off because my meter showed 140 dBA! This is equivalent to being 1 metre from a jet engine when it is taking off!

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    I have just returned from staying with my parents who spent most of the time saying “what?” to one another and complaining that the other is mumbling. I tried my best to get them booked in for a hearing aid assessment but they were not wanting to do that…. My Mum used to complain about my Nanny who apparently did have a hearing aid but never used it as it wore the batteries down… I suspect at some point in time I shall also refuse to admit I cannot hear.

    As an aside I saw a funny little sign the other day that said “99% of marriage is about shouting “what?” from other rooms in the house”.

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